Love Me Extra Today


You guys- I saw this quote on a pin late last night when I was working the Pinterest graveyard shift (any girl will tell you- YES- that’s a thing) and it’s totally messing me up today. Imagine this? Imagine if love was really this simple? Imagine if we could just say to each other, on really tough days- stressful days- insecure days- sad days-overwhelming days, ‘Love me extra today’?

I love John Mayer’s music. And even though he was apparently a total DB to Taylor Swift, whom I. Adore. I’m trying to overlook that for a few moments here. (And Mom, I’ll tell you what DB means later.) His music is the perfect combination of passion and angst- and sort of  predictably, Heartbreak Warfare is one of my favorite songs:

If you want more love, why don’t you say so?

If you want more love, why don’t you say so?

But I wanna know: Can people really do this? Do you guys love like this? If you want more love, can you really just say so?  I’m trying to figure out if this is …legit. Could we really just tell the people in our lives so plainly on the days we need extra love? (Maybe you guys already do this easily and you know…it’s just ME that’s having an awakening here.)

I am a semi-recover[ing]{ed} self-proclaimed Queen of Passive Aggressive Behavior (I know. It’s not good. I’m working on it and I’ve gotten better. For real though.) For myself and other PA types, asking for what we need is hard. But this seems easy. Too easy. Even I could text this say this. I could have the courage to ask for extra love on tough days. And I could hear this request from someone else and not feel defensive or threatened or… like I was not enough.

I want my girls to know this, my boy to know this, the people in my life that I love and that love me–Because this isn’t just about lovers. It’s about all of us being able to identify our own needs and love better. When we ask for what we need, we’re loving better. This feels revolutionary to me. I know maybe it’s not– but the simplicity of it all moves me. Asking for more love. Saying ‘Love me extra today’ feels like a novel concept- A beautiful novel concept.

Simply ask for more love.

Somebody, talk to me. Tell me what you think.

4 thoughts on “Love Me Extra Today

  1. Ann marie Comstock says:

    Absolutely a beautiful read…I’m an obsessed JM fan…his lyrics r my therapy..haha..LUV is a verb..u gotta SHO SHO SHO me..much LUV to u..


  2. So, Liv seems to be struggling through being 11 more than usual lately. Alot of anxiety & tears. I have started incorporating something you told me… I say to her, “Tell me what you need.” More often than not she needs more love that day & will say so by asking for a hug. I’m gonna share this quote by JM with her ❤️


    • Deb, I love this. Thanks so much for letting me know. I’ve had some similar incidents with Emery recently– and isn’t funny how simple the solution is? Extra love. That’s the answer. So beautiful and so simple. It’s been said that love is the answer to the ills of humanity– and when the question is posed, “what if that doesn’t work?” The answer? Increase the dose. xoxo


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s